I asked Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) about a virgin whose marriage is solemnised by her guardian, whether it was necessary or not to consult her. Allah’s Messerger (ﷺ) said: Yes, she must be consulted. ‘A’isha reported: I told him that she feels shy, whereupon Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) said: Her silence implies her consent.
A woman without a husband has more right to her person than her guardian, and a virgin’s consent must be asked from her, and her silence implies her consent.
A woman who has been previously married (Thayyib) has more right to her person than her guardian. And a virgin should also be consulted, and her silence implies her consent.
A hadith like this has been narrated on the authority of” Abdullah b. ‘Umar (Allah be pleased with them) but with a slight variation of words.
Ibn Umar (Allah be pleased with them) reported that Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) prohibited Shighar.
There is no Shighar in islam.
Shighar means that a person should say to the other person: Give me the hand of your daughter in marriage and I will (in return) marry my daughter to you; or merry me your sister, and I will marry my sister to you.
The Muslim should not purchase in opposition to his brother, and he should not make the proposal of marriage on the proposal already made by his brother.
This hadith has been narrated on the authority of Abu Huraira (Allah be pleased with him) through another chain of transmitters.
A believer is the brother of a believer, so it is not lawful for a believer to outbid his brother, and he should not propose an engagement when his brother has thus proposed until he gives it up.