Hisham bin 'Urwa هشام بن عروة · The Book of Zakah

"The Messenger of Allah came out with a stick in his hand, and a man had hung up a bunch of dry and bad dates. He started hitting that bunch of dates and said: 'I wish that the one who gave this Sadaqah had given something better than this, for the one who gave these dry, bad dates will eat dry, bad dates on the Day of Resurrection."'

"When a man spends on his family, seeking reward for that, that is an act of charity on his part."

"Do not be demanding when asking. If one of you asks me for anything and I give it reluctantly, there will be no blessing in it."